Saturday, October 20, 2012

Rabbi Earl A. Grollman Highly Recommends Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like

In this most helpful book, Allen Klein shows how to transform your attitude toward loss, whether it be a loved one’s death, the loss of a job, or the trials associated with aging, in order to return to living life more fully again.

As a pioneer in the field of loss and crisis intervention, I have seen many ways that people cope with grief and loss. Sometimes laughing is a healing medicine. The eminent psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl, a concentration camp survivor, provides perhaps a most powerful example. Everyday he found something funny to laugh about. He credited his survival, in part, to humor. It gave him hope to look forward to each day. It afforded him the power to rise above an almost powerless situation. I say, “almost,” because Frankl attributed his survival to attitude, the real power one has over any situation.

Klein is no stranger to the value of therapeutic humor as an attitude-changing tool. From his experience as a former home health aide and hospice volunteer, as well as from the personal and career losses in his life, he has amassed a wealth of compassionate wisdom. This knowledge is presented here in a very easy-to-digest, helpful, and reader-friendly format.

Like Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s five stages of dying, Klein has created what he calls “the five stages of living” after loss. They are Losing, Learning, Letting Go, Living, and Laughing.

In one of his previous books, The Courage to Laugh: Humor, Hope, and Healing in the Face of Death and Dying, Klein imparted encouraging stories of how those who were facing life-threatening challenges, from such crises as cancer, AIDS, lingering loss, or sudden loss, had used humor as a meaningful coping tool. In the book, Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying, Klein goes a step further. With inspirational quotations, lessons from diverse cultures, and heartwarming advice, he provides numerous suggestions for finding humor during those not-so-funny times.

While death, dying, and loss are no laughing matter, those who find a bit of humor in the grieving process know that they will survive. When laughing, you have a moment’s respite in what is often an overwhelming circumstance. It is a wonderful way to communicate at a time when communication is often at an impasse. In addition, you gain a different perspective at a difficult time and rise above life’s adversities.

And, perhaps the most important gain is that humor and laughter, as Frankl discovered fosters hope. I have always been intrigued with the power that hope provides during a crisis. Without hope all is lost.

There are many books about coping with grief and loss. I have written a few of them myself. But Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying is unique because of its focus on enduring losses, learning from them, and beginning to live and laugh again.

I hope that you will read this book. For it will not only provide you with hope but also with a passion for life.

Rabbi Earl A. Grollman, DHL, DD

Author of Living When a Lived One Has Died

Monday, October 15, 2012

Mid-Month Mirth Memo, October 2012

The man sitting next to me on a recent flight was terrified of planes; he couldn’t stop shaking.

    So I suggested he get a Scotch from the flight attendant, which he did, drinking it down

in one gulp.

    “Can I get another one?” he asked me. I pointed out the button above his head and told

him to press it if he wanted another drink.

      He promptly stood up, pushed the button, and held his glass underneath it.

                                                                       -Robert Nurton, in Reader's Digest, October 2012 


Law of Mechanical Repair:
After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch and you'll have to pee.

The Coffee Law:
As soon as you sit down to a cup of hot coffee, someone will ask you to do something which will
last until the coffee is cold.

Law of Gravity:
Any tool, nut, bolt, screw, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible place in the universe.


Laughter and the loss of a spouse on Open to Hope TV show.